As mothers, it’s easy for us to come across as having it together all the time, and most of the time we do.
We have to! Without some sort of order to the unpredictable chaos it would be some challenge just to make it to the end of the day!
But you say our job is easy?
Well, it’s so much more than a job…it’s a 24 hour thing, with no breaks, holidays or timeouts. We can’t just call in sick and stay at home. Some may argue that being a mother makes you happier than you ever thought you could be and some say it’s the most rewarding challenge in life. While I agree, yes it is those things – it is also back breaking and frustrating. It’s not possible to have our heads together all the time.
So I’m here to break the illusion of how easy motherhood is and say that actually it can be tough and it’s okay to admit that.
It’s okay to admit that being a parent is hard and exhausting and can get really lonely.
Dinner won’t always be cooked every night.
The afternoons won’t be spent baking and each morning won’t be spent at baby and toddler groups where mums knit and chat, whilst the dads have bacon butties at the weekend.
Sometimes the day or week just falls apart, but all of that is just fine. As long as you can admit to yourself that you don’t have to be perfect all the time.
You don’t have to have it together all the time, because we’re just people trying to do the best we can. Just like we were before we became parents.
One of the hardest things I’ve learned along this journey as a mother is that putting my own happiness first really isn’t selfish.
Without a happy mum, there is no happy child or happy family.
Although you have to become selfless in the way that your baby does and will always come first, there are some things a mother just cannot sacrifice to save her sanity.
One of those things right at the top of the list is alone time.
30 minutes alone, all to myself can be just as therapeutic as an aromatherapy based massage. It gives me time to reflect and recharge. In that time I can gather my thoughts, relax and muster the patience to start again.
So being a happy mum is, I feel, a right of passage. Otherwise there’s no way we can do our job properly. You know that thing that we spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week doing, that thing called being a mum.