This is what we really should be teaching our young girls

As a mum of girls, I often worry about their future and think about all of the things that I’d like them to learn before they spread their wings and leave the nest.

There are so many things that I wish I’d been taught when I was younger. As such I thought I’d ask some other parents, who also happen to be bloggers, what they think we should really be teaching young girls.

Here’s what they said.

Money

Pete from Household Money Saving said: I would teach them about money – why it’s important for the future and how best to save it.

I couldn’t agree more, although this goes for both boys and girls.

Although my parents gave my sister and I weekly pocket money, we were never taught about savings, mortgages, credit cards, pensions etc.

Whilst we did learn to save up for things, I think it’s so important that we teach children not only about the value of money and how to save it, but also about bank accounts, interest, ISA’s, and other aspects that come with being a responsible adult such as mortgages, credit cards, debt, and where to go for money advice.

Attitude

Sara from Jodhpurs for Maisie said: I would teach them that people who are mean to you aren’t mean because there is something wrong with you, they are mean because they are unhappy or lacking in some way. 

Carol from Virtually All Sorts says: To be true to themselves and how we are what we think and can empower ourselves and each other with positive words.

Veronia from My Parenting Journey says: Would it be a little too soon to start teaching them how to deal with bullies? (or even harrassers). When my daughter turns 7 I will teach her to always speak up if she’s being maltreated.

I firmly believe that you should treat others how you want to be treated, and this is something I always say to our girls. Sometimes, it’s easy to act without thinking, and do or say something we shouldn’t, but what’s more important is how we act after this. Saying sorry, making amends etc.

Body Image, Respect and Saying No

Nothing is more important in my opinion than teaching young girls about their bodies, their rights and respect. I’ve already talked to my children about the PANTS rule, about saying NO etc, and as they get older, my husband and I will address other important topics such as respect, body confidence and image.

Gail from Yammy Mommy Blog said: I would teach them that spending their days taking selfies and posting bunny ears on themselves to get compliments from people is a complete waste of time.

Georgina from Gee Gardner said: I would teach them that numbers, percentages, grades and weights do not define them and they are enough as they are.

Star from Autism Kids on Tour said: I would teach them to love themselves and be themselves! 

Fran from Back with a Bump says: I think life skills are really important and how life isn’t about how many Youtube followers you have, how many likes a photo gets on Instagram and how we don’t all have to conform and be this perception of what is beauty is. I think it’s about encouraging kindness and independence. Maybe a lot for an hour! 

Jodie from Tight Wad Mamma said: I would teach them about body confidence as I think it’s important to start at an early age. Especially in a time when kids are bombarded with photoshopped images and negative media coverage of women’s bodies.

Workplace, Job and Interview Skills

As our children enter high school, they start thinking to their future and what career options lay ahead of them. As well as the skills required for entering the work force, I think it’s important to teach young girls interview skills, but also that they’re just as capable as men, if not more so. The workforce can be a pretty male dominated place at times, but it’s time we teach our girls that it doesn’t need to be this way.

The World and Current Affairs

Jenny from Monkey and Mouse says: I’m a Rainbow leader and we use crafts and games as the kids enjoy them, but we incorporate them into wider topics. Last week we celebrated the women’s right to vote and had the girls marching round the room calling for votes for women, made rosettes, two girls stood up as voices for their political parties and then we voted! I love that we can do more educational things as well as just plain fun!

Kate from Ever After with Kids said: I would teach them about how our country works, for example how government works and how people are elected and laws are passed. It is something I left school having no clue about but I consider to be really important. 

Life Skills

The only thing I ever remember being taught to ‘cook’ in school was angel delight! Girls need to be taught cooking skills, as do boys, in addition to healthy eating and exercise, but should they also be taught survival skills such as how to light a fire, build a den/cover/hideout, how to source food in the wild etc?

Sarah from Whimsical Mumblings says: I’d teach them basic cooking skills and recipes, money advice, simple DIYs such as hammering a nail or sewing a button and basic gardening skills. I wish I learnt these things as I child! Also basic first aid and how to call 999.

Emma Reed from Emma Reed says: I am a very hands-on person and would teach them basic DIY skills, how to use a hammer, screwdriver etc including what they could have in their own toolbox at home.

Jennifer from My Mummies Pennies says: To safely light a fire. My seven year old daughter goes to beavers and she loves leaning survival skills for the outdoors and can’t wait to on camp in June! 

These are just a few of the things that I think are essential we teach our girls. What would you add?

23 thoughts on “This is what we really should be teaching our young girls

  1. Some great teaching right here! For me, I would add talking to people face to face. I see my 19 year old daughter struggle with this no matter what I do.
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  2. Such a great post! We try to teach our girls anything and everything, if we can do it then they should at least know how to as well. Both girls help with cooking, cleaning, diy, shopping etc and get involved where they can, none of this ‘you can’t, it’s for boys’ rubbish! #ThatFridayLinky

  3. Love this and equally I’m dreading my girls growing up. There seems to be so much more for children to think about and be aware of nowadays. Fortunately my wife is all over this so I’m confident as a team we can help them grow up to be the best that they can be. #ThatFridayLinky

  4. Great advice there: I think the most important of all, perhaps, is getting them to treat others — including Mom and Dad!!! — the way they would like to be treated #ThatFridayLinky

  5. Hi, what a great selection of tips all of which are all highly valid. I just wished I had learnt more practical things that I would call boys stuff #thatfridaylinky

  6. I really like the comment about teaching them to understand why people are mean to them and explaining that it’s not because of them. I teach my children to be accepting of everyone and to embrace children and people with disabilities, different culture, beliefs ect. I’m really proud that they’re growing into kind individuals. #ThatFridayLinky

  7. What a great post. So many things there that I would be keen to have my girls know. The other thing I would add is the importance of family #thatfridaylinky

  8. These all sound like perfect things to tell children. I especially agree with money advice, recipes to cook and being kind but expect respect. #thatfridaylinky

  9. I would definitely highlight the importance of develping good communication skills and healthy relationships as ultimately this is what will help our girls to resolve conflict and live happily with others, whether they choose to get married or not. #That FridayLinky

  10. As a mother of 2 girls, these are all such important things to teach them. I think one of the most important ones is body image, respect and saying no. It’s important that they know they should love themselves and have respect for their bodies, and that it’s ok to say no when it comes to anything that makes them uncomfortable.

  11. Love this post! As a soon to be mum to three boys, I know I will be teaching them all about respect and equality for women, yet still teaching them how to be gentlemen… knowing when its right to pay for something, pull out a chair etc
    Basically, I’ll teach them to be their father as he lets me be who I want to be and gives me the respect I deserve for being me, not just for being a woman. #thatfridaylinky

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