The older I get, the more worried I become about potential situations we could face. 2018 hasn’t been an easy year for my husband and I. He’s been plagued with ill health for much of the year.
At beginning of 2018 he was diagnosed with high blood pressure following a stroke, and since then he’s been in and out of doctors appointments, hospital visits and has been prescribed various medications that all have different side effects.
I think it’s fair to say that 2018 hasn’t been a great year for us. This has made me look at life in a different light, and has made me more perceptive and aware of certain things that we could be doing to make life easier.
Before I go into more detail, I want to give you some background.
Aside from loosing pets such as hamsters and rabbits when we were younger, my sister and I have also experienced the loss of numerous family members too.
We were very young when we lost our grandad, and this was our first real experience of death. It hit us both pretty hard as his death was so unexpected. He was chasing his daughters dog who’d escaped from the house, when he suddenly had a heart attack and died.
I remember walking out of high school when my parents called to let us know what had happened. The only other memory I have of his passing is being at his funeral. I couldn’t breathe for the amount of tears I shed that day, and I vowed ever since that I’d never go to another funeral again.
Sadly, that wasn’t the case.
In 2005 after fighting a long, brave battle with ovarian cancer, we sadly lost my mum. She was just 50 years old. My sister and I were just 18 at the time. I feel like we’ve missed out on so much as adults due to mum not being with us. She never got to see us marry, meet her grandchildren etc, and I have to be honest when I see people sharing photos of their mums on social media and about how they’ve been shopping or for a spa day etc, I feel a tinge of jealousy.
Although my mum is no longer with us, I always make sure that my children know about her. They call her their nanna in the sky, and I must admit it brings a tear to my eye.
Talking about my mum with my children comes easily to me, but as a nation we’re not really very forthcoming in talking about death.
It isn’t something that we find easy to talk about, and it can be seen as a taboo subject, especially within Western societies. We tend not to think about it until we have to, until we’re faced with it, and then we look for support from our friends and family. SunLife have some useful information when someone dies that may cover any questions you may have.
More recently my niece and nephew have experienced their first dealings with death. They sadly lost one of their pet guinea pigs. It was heartbreaking, but I do wonder if children take death easier than adults?
Loosing someone is never easy, and I don’t thin you ever really get over it. You just learn to deal with it in different ways as you get older.
Going back to my husbands ill health, and my own mothers passing, it’s one of the reasons why I took up running. I want to do everything I can to extend my life and be around longer of my children. This also includes eating well and teaching my children about how important health and exercise is too.
Life is delicate. Let’s do all we can to make the most of it, and live it well while we can!