The glue that holds a family together
A mum is a person to be looked up to. A role model for her children to aspire to and also the glue that holds a family together.
A dad of course is also the glue that holds a family together, but when I lost my mum things changed in a big way and I didn’t like it. I still don’t like. We all seem to have drifted apart and are so busy with our own lives that we almost forget each other’s existence.
We lost mum over ten years ago now, so you’d think I’d be used to it by now, but I’m not. You never get used to it. It actually gets harder the older I get.
I remember her smile, her laugh and her cough! Her cough? You may say, well yes, her cough.
My sister and I would be in the supermarket with her. If we lost her, we’d just listen out for her cough. We knew it was hers, so distinctive. It’s strange I know, but they’re my precious memories and I cherish them so much. Like the time she went down a waterslide on holiday and lost her top at the end. She laughed. I laughed.
She thought it was hilarious!
I never really knew you. That makes me sad.
I mean of course I knew you, but I didn’t really have the chance to get to know you. K and I were just 18 when you died. I don’t know what your favourite colour is. What your favourite food is. It seems trivial, but I’d love to know.
I wish you could have been there when all of your grandchildren were born. I know you’d love them and they’d love you just as much too. To see you holding them, playing with them would have been beautiful.
I wish you could have been there when I needed someone to talk to and ask questions. You were a twin mum like me too and I really wish I could have asked you how you coped.
You were the glue that held us together and now you’re gone, it’s just not the same.
11 Comments
Rachel Rogers
February 16, 2016 at 10:49 am
This is such a lovely, touching post. She was beautiful. Xxx
Helen Emery
February 16, 2016 at 11:54 am
What a beautiful post!! Made me think of my mum and how important she is to me, she was there when my daughter was born, she cut the cord and she's always there when I need her, which has been a lot during my pnd!! I don't want to imagine life without her!! So I really feel for you!!! I'm sure she would have been proud if you!! Big hugs!! Xxx
Kim Carberry
February 16, 2016 at 8:12 pm
So sorry! Such a beautiful lady and a beautiful post x
Lesley Ann Paterson
February 19, 2016 at 8:18 am
What a touching post x
Louisa
February 19, 2016 at 1:12 pm
Such a lovely post. We never stop needing ours moms, I am so sorry for your loss x
Jodie Allen
February 19, 2016 at 4:31 pm
This is a lovely post. I am so sorry you lost her. #BinkyLinky
Random Musings
February 19, 2016 at 5:32 pm
I'm so sorry you lost mum so young. I can't imagine how horrible that must have been (and still is).
Thanks for hosting the #binkylinky
Debbie
Sarah Howe
February 19, 2016 at 7:16 pm
It's so sad to lose a parent. I think all these things about my Dad. I lost him when I was pregnant and he missed so much. I'm sorry you don't have her. I hope she can see how well you do. I hope this with my Dad xx Thanks for hosting x
Emma
February 19, 2016 at 9:07 pm
So sorry for your loss 18 is no age to lose a parent. #binkylinky lifeinthemumslane
Helen Gandy – Beautiful Things
February 20, 2016 at 8:05 pm
Hold on to those precious memories lovely, they will see you through dark times. Hugs and thanks for hosting #binkylinky
Something Crunchy Mummy
February 23, 2016 at 11:29 am
Beautiful post. The memories you have sound precious so hold onto them. #binkylinky xx