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This week our brilliant mum feature is Jess who blogs at Tantrums to Smiles.
Jess is a 27 year old mum of two from Bristol. She’s married (5 years this year!) and her children are aged 8 and 3. In her spare time, Jess enjoys sleeping, but says that hasn’t happened in a while, so instead she enjoys staying up until the early hours blogging when her children refuse to sleep. Jess recently found a love for the gym and swimming, and says she can’t believe how therapeutic it can actually be getting some time to herself and just exercising some of her stress away.
Thanks for taking part Jess!
Have you always wanted to be a mum?
I first became pregnant at just 17 so I guess I hadn’t really thought about whether I wanted to become a mum or not. However now that I am a mum I can’t imagine being anything else. It has most certainly made me the person I am today.
How did you feel when your children were born?
When my first son was born I was 18 and I felt totally overwhelmed. I really struggled to adapt and to suddenly becoming a parent and having a tiny new little person to look after. Having a baby definitely made me a stronger person though. It gave me to ability to make my own decisions and choices and be certain about the choices I was making.
Becoming a mum also made me a stronger more resilient person as I knew I had to be for my kids. When I then fell pregnant with my second at age 24 I felt a lot more confident and excited. I felt more capable of making the decisions for myself and more confident to make parenting choices based on what I wanted and not what I thought was correct.
I will add though that with both pregnancies that feeling of instant love and protection as soon as I held my babies was the most amazing feeling I have ever felt, and it never ever leaves you.
What have been your most rewarding experiences so far as a mum?
Pretty cheesy I know but watching these tiny little babies that I created grow into strong independent children has been the most rewarding experience ever. Knowing that as their mum I helped them to learn, to grow and gave them the ability to make their own choices and become their own people has been amazing. I can’t wait to see what the years ahead bring and the grown ups they become. Also hearing them say “I Love You Mum” is all the reward I need. It melts away all the stress of the day when I hear them say it.
What are some of your funniest moments to have happened to you as a mum?
I think one of the times that has given me the most fits of laughter has been when both my little ones have started to talk/ learn to speak. Some of their pronunciations have been absolutely hilarious and have had both me and my husband in fits of laughter. They have definitely turned heads too like when we were at a farm one summer and my son kept shouting “ooo sheep” but its sounded more like “oh s**t”! We definitely got some funny looks from passers by.
Have there been any situations with your children that you have found difficult to cope with?
I remember when I fell pregnant for the second time around I had all this worry and anxiety about how I would cope as a mum to two. Not only for me but how my son would then cope with a sibling and having to “share” me. It still definitely weighs on my mind even now because I am very conscious of ensuring they both get equal time with us and that neither of them ever feels left out.
What are your dreams and hopes for your children?
My dreams and hopes for my children is that they grow up happy. Knowing that they are loved beyond words and that they are proud of exactly who they are. I never want them to feel they need to change for anyone or anything. I want them to know its ok to question the “norm” and to be themselves.
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