Hello and welcome to the Brilliant Mum Feature. Once a week I will be featuring one mum in a bid to find out more about them and their lives.
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This week our brilliant mum feature is Jude who blogs at Gluing Cheese.
Jude is a 36-year-old single mum to a three-year-old boy, Theo. Jude split up from Theo’s dad almost two years ago and says they have been co-parenting ever since. They were married, and had been together for more than a decade before splitting up. Jude is a working mum and is a copywriter for a creative/marketing agency. Jude also likes to keep fit and is in a local choir.
Thanks for taking part Jude!
Have you always wanted to be a mum?
Not always no! But, as I got older I realised I really did want a family. We tried for over a year to get pregnant, which was a very difficult time. I would like more children – when I meet someone else!
How did you feel when your children were born?
My pregnancy was fine, my labour wasn’t. I was induced after nearly a week overdue and due to reduced movement. I had a terrible labour which didn’t progress at all and ended in an emergency c-section as baby’s heart rate dropped. It was horrific and it took me a long time to recover mentally and physically. But, I was overwhelmed with love and I feel like my bad experience brought us closer together and helped to foster a very strong bond.
What have been your most rewarding experiences so far as a mum?
Going it alone and coping!!! It is so so hard to keep going sometimes whether it’s caring for TJ on my own when the jobs are non-stop and often round-the-clock. It is also so so hard to be away from him when he is with his dad and his new partner. But, through it all, we are getting there and having so much fun along the way as TJ grows into an emotionally healthy and wonderful little boy.
What are some of your funniest moments to have happened to you as a mum?
Oh the one-liners TJ comes out with! They are the best. He wants to be a Stegasaurus when he is older. He went through a phase of wanting to wear a dress (I bought him one and let him do his thing!) His commentary on the world around him as he grows to understand it all e.g. ‘mummy, why does that man have a big tummy? Is there a baby in it?’
Have there been any situations with your children that you have found difficult to cope with?
The emotions. Being apart cuts like a knife. Handovers are pure hell more often than they are not. Explaining this to a toddler is nearly impossible. But I know his dad looks after him well and that everything will be OK – so I am lucky in that respect. He behaves better for his dad than he does for me which is hard as I worry that I am doing something wrong when he is getting it right – although my rational head also knows that’s not true!
What are your dreams and hopes for your children?
Happiness! I just want him to be a happy boy. I want him to understand the decisions his parents made and understand that they were with all the best intentions. I hope he sees his parents as strong role models and that he can learn that you never have to settle for anything in life which doesn’t make you happy – strive for more and you never know what may happen!
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