Hubby and I got married in 2008. A year later we were having the conversation about trying for a baby. Well, maybe I was having the conversation and hubby was just nodding politely! Anyway I decided we’d start trying for a baby in 2010. I’d just turned 31 and thought it was a near perfect time, I was in a good position at work again so we were ready.
We tried for over a year and experienced the monthly hope that my period wouldn’t come and I’d get that positive pregnancy test, but nothing happened. I got to the point where I was obsessed by it. Taking my temperature and doing those ovulation sticks. By April 2011 still nothing, so I decided we needed to visit to the doctors to see what they suggested.
They suggested we had some tests onde which meant for me I would have blood tests to check my hormone levels and for hubby a sperm analysis. Mine came back all ok, but for hubby the results weren’t good and we instantly knew why we hadn’t got pregnant.
In September 2011 I started Acupuncture as I’d heard it might be able to help us get pregnant and at nearly two years of trying I was ready to try anything. I continued with this until about a week before egg collection in 2012. Hubby had his second sperm test in November and we were told that things hadn’t improved so we were told we would be referred for IVF.
The First Consultation
We had to wait until 2nd March 2012 for our first consultant appointment. Those six months felt like forever. I don’t massively remember that appointment much except the fact that it was near the maternity scan unit at the Royal Berks. They asked me to come back three days later for an internal examination to look at my ovaries. This is where they discovered my right ovary was stuck and there was talk after this of me having a lap operation to correct this, but I was told the consultant would make the final decision about this at our next appointment. It was decided later that there was no point in this operation due to going down the IVF route.
This was on the 25th April and was actually to be our final consultant appointment as we were pretty much where we were told that we would be. We were told we should maybe have ISCI due to hubby’s results.
From here it was a wait for approval and then once that had come we had to call Oxford to book an appointment. We choose Oxford because firstly it was our nearest clinic and secondly that’s where the consultant recommended.
Down Regulation and Ovarian Stimulation
On the 21st August I started the down regulation drugs and started on the emotional rollercoaster. If anyone tells you IVF is easy they are lying! It’s one of the hardest things I’ve been through in my life!
The drive to that appointment seemed like the longest ever! That day I was going to be implanted with our embie. Hubby and I had a long conversation before the process both about how many times we would actually try IVF and also how many embies we would have put back. We both decided to only having one put back. To be fair on the day we only had the option of 1 anyway as we were lucky enough to have grade A blastocysts which is pretty much the best you can have. It’s a very special moment having that embie transferred inside you.
Our official test date was the 12th October but I couldn’t wait the extra day so on the 11th I took a pregnancy test! I was in shock when I got those 2 blue lines, so much so over the next two days I did four tests.
So after one go at ISCI we were pregnant!
Life now is hard at times, but also lovely and I certainly wouldn’t change it for anything! You find yourself on a whole new rollercoaster.
As I’ve said the IVF process is bloody hard emotionally and you certainly need good support around you. I found lots of comfort on Twitter with other ladies who we’re going through the same thing at the same time as me. I truly only believe those who have gone through IVF can understand what you are going through.
As anyone who has a baby should tell you is that those first two weeks were the hardest, but somehow it gets easier after that.
Remember to stay positive. There are lots of positive IVF stories out there, by all means come and find me on Twitter.