The highs and lows of parenting

October 1, 2014
(Scroll down to view my #voiceofmums video)


Before I had children I dreamt of days spent on the sofa with a baby in my arms and something good on the TV. I imagined myself walking to the local park with my baby securely snuggled up in a baby carrier on my chest. The sun would be shining and I would sit on a blanket on the grass watching the world go by whilst tending to the needs of my baby.
I would spend hours lovingly singing and talking to my baby to help them sleep. I’d cuddle them when they cried for as long as they needed me to and we’d sleep peacefully in our own beds!
It was all very idyllic!
Then reality hit and I soon realised how naive I was!

Of course I didn’t imagine myself with twin babies in all this day dreaming I’d be doing though!
I didn’t know how hard it would be to be a parent. Nobody told me about all of the emotions I’d be feeling after giving birth and how hormonal I’d be!
I spent most days crying for no reason!
Our twins were born six weeks premature by planned c-section because twin two, now known as ‘M’, had stopped growing. She was born weighing 2lb11 and R, who was born first, was born weighing 4lb3. 

They spent 27 days in special care and I can tell you it was a time in my life that I’ll never forget. Unless you’ve been in a special care unit as a parent to a premature or ill baby you’ll never truly understand the emotional upheaval it puts on you as an individual and also as a couple.
I never expected to feel so emotional. I mean I knew I’d feel emotional, but the amount of emotion I was feeling was overwhelming.
I didn’t know how to deal with the constant flow of visitors and I hated the thought of other people looking after my babies. When I say other people I mean the doctors and nurses. I felt helpless.
Anyhow, 27 days later we brought our beautiful, little girls home which meant we could get on with being a family and learning all about one another in the comfort of our own home.
You may remember at the beginning of this post I mentioned going for walks to the park with my baby strapped to my chest?
Things didn’t quite pan out like that, but it was still great!

As we have twins I’ve only ever used a baby carrier once! Aside from that one time we’ve always used a double buggy. Don’t even get me started on trying to get a double buggy into some shops, although it is great when in a crowded shopping area as people will just swerve to avoid you!
I didn’t know how hard it would be to feed a baby, well two babies! I just thought I’d take to breastfeeding like a duck takes to water, but sadly that didn’t happen. Not for the lack of trying, but we did end up using bottles.
I now know all about silent reflux as M had this. Something I’d never even heard of before I’d had children. It meant even the sight of a milk bottle would scare M as she just associated a bottle with pain.
Silent reflux is when the milk travels back up the throat and causes pain. M wouldn’t be sick with it, but would arch her back in pain, draw her knees up close to her chest and refuse to drink her milk. It meant feeding time was quite stressful and time consuming. R would drink a bottle of milk within 30 minutes, but an hour later I’d still be trying to feed M!
We soon learnt how to deal with it though and thankfully when we started weaning the reflux disappeared.

Mind you, one thing I should mention is the poop! That was a surprise!
Never under-estimate the power of a babies poop!
Whilst in special care I was changing R’s nappy. As soon I took her poopy nappy off, she promptly projectile pooped everywhere! It shot over the top of her open incubator and all over the floor! I was just thankful that no-one had been walking passed at the time or they would have been covered!
I wasn’t alone in this! A father across from me thought it was hilarious until his son did the same thing! You find humour in the little (and smelly) things when you have a child in special care!
As soon as our twins were born I felt an over whelming sensation of love for them. They were perfect!
As with most babies their first illness is a huge learning curve and your doctor and health visitor become your new best friends as do Calpol and Nurofen! Plus you’ll find yourself spending hours scouring the internet for tips.
Well, here’s a free tip! Don’t buy a nasal aspirator! They’re useless! Invest in a bottle of Cussons Comfort to Snuffly Noses! It contains a menthol fragrance to help comfort little noses and helps to soothe baby and it really does work!
Now at the grand age of two and a half our twins amaze me every day!
They no longer wear nappies. No longer sleep in the day and just the other day we changed their toddler swings into big girls swings!
We enjoy squashy cuddles and kisses, watching countless hours of children’s TV and spending hundreds of hours splitting up fights over toys, but I wouldn’t change anything!
Being a mum was the making of me and I’m loving every second of it! 

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20 Comments

  • Catriona Stephen

    October 1, 2014 at 9:06 pm

    This is a lovely post. My day dreams of being a Mum and the reality is also quite different! I can't believe they're two and a half, feels like it wasn't long ago I was reading your post to them for their second birthday! Love the photos 🙂 I don't have much of a clue about silent reflux, but it sounded horrible for her 🙁 well for you all xx

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:11 pm

      Thanks Cat. They'll be 3 soon! I can't believe how fast it's gone! x

  • wifemumandme

    October 3, 2014 at 8:59 am

    Lovely post. Oh the dream of ideal parenting, never quite turns out how you imagine does it. It is lovely though when you take a stroll to the park, and there are no tantrums over what swing to go on or the fact that the see-saw is damp, the days it all goes just right and you can remember why being a mum is just perfect. #binkylinky

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:13 pm

      Totally agree! Love days like that! x

  • Le Coin de Mel

    October 3, 2014 at 9:04 am

    This is such an honest post… I was incredibly naïve as well before I had my first. My friends and I were referring to our maternity leave as "the baking club". Ha ha ha, we could not have been more wrong! Needless to say, there were never any baking sessions whilst the babies were sleeping peacefully in another room. It was more like: drinking coffee club with screaming newborns / moany, tired new mums / feeding 24 hours a day! That silent reflux sounds awful. One of my girls had colic, and it was so tough for the first few months,, #BinkyLinky

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:14 pm

      Thanks for your comment! I laugh at how naive I was! I spent my 'spare time' checking them constantly to make sure they were still breathing and creeping around trying to be quiet! x

  • Claire Jacobs

    October 3, 2014 at 11:34 am

    wow love this post, it sure is a rollercoaster, i just wish someone was on it with my sometimes lol
    #binkylinky

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:15 pm

      Me too! I know what you mean Claire!! x

  • Little Miss Alba

    October 3, 2014 at 12:38 pm

    Perfect post – and so true that so many mums dream of life like that before they actually have children. The ups and downs are crazy but so worth it. I still suffer from silent reflux at 2 and still on meds – so horrible especially the daly days but like you say you just deal with it. Really lovely post xxx Ax

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:16 pm

      It's totally worth it. Silent reflux is awful, I hope it eases soon x

  • liquoriceuk

    October 3, 2014 at 1:44 pm

    What a lovely post and so very honest. Amazing how the reality of parenthood is so different from those daydreams although still wonderful too. My daughter spent a lot of her first year in hospital and it is such a rollercoaster ride. The projective poo story made me smile – my girls have both done that and I once had it happen to me when I was a midwife doing postnatal visit before I had children myself and on my last visit of the day, a baby projectile pooed and it covered me from head to toe. Thank goodness I had a spare set of clothes in my labour bag in the car!

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:17 pm

      Thanks for your comment. The reality is so very different! Nothing can really prepare you for being a parent! I hope your daughter is ok now. I don't miss those projectile days! x

  • Louisa

    October 3, 2014 at 3:03 pm

    Lovely post. Our journey into parenthood rarely turns out as expected. Somethings just don't go well but others exceed anything you could ever have hoped for in your wildest dreams x

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:17 pm

      That's true, thanks for your comment Louisa xx

  • newcastle familylife

    October 4, 2014 at 9:26 am

    Lovely post i too had day dreams similar to what you did on what it would be like being a mum and you are so right the reality is nothing like you imagined and some days are so hard. It must have been awful and such a worry your girls being born so early and being in special care but they are gorgeous little toddlers and i bet it so lovely to have twins xx #Binkylinky

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:18 pm

      Some days are very hard and tiring, but it is worth it! Thanks for your lovely comment x

  • Victoria Welton

    October 4, 2014 at 10:18 pm

    What a great post. I think in parenthood it is always best to expect the unexpected. I don't think anything can ever prepare you for what is really in store! Your twins are so beautiful. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo 🙂 x

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:18 pm

      Yes! Totally agree about expecting the unexpected! x

  • Loving life with little ones

    October 8, 2014 at 7:33 pm

    Lovely words, we all have dreams of parenthood, sometimes things are not quite what we imagined but nevertheless parenthood can be great (sometimes) #pocolo

    1. Emily

      October 8, 2014 at 10:19 pm

      Thanks for your comment x

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