Becoming a new parent is terrifying.
You may have read lots of parenting books, asked your friends for advice and searched the Internet for information, but the first time you’re handed your new bundle of joy, everything you thought you knew about babies, goes straight out of the window.
It’s nothing like they say it will be, and whatever approach you take may well work one day, but the next day the chances are it won’t work again.
Babies needs are forever changing, from one minute to the next. They’ll go through so many ‘phases’ before they’ve even turned one, and then it’s a whole new chapter that you’ll need to try and figure out.
Having twins is even more exhausting, especially when you’re on your own with them. At least when your partner is home with you, you can have a baby each, but when it’s just you, on your own, staring into the open mouthed faces of two crying babies, it can break even the toughest person.
Many a time, I broke down in tears, struggling to cope with the demands of two babies. Quite often, I’d put the girls in their cots so I knew they were safe and I’d just stand in the kitchen alone. I needed to get my head in gear. To focus, to calm myself and just give myself a break. A very short break, but those few minutes allowed me to refocus and be a better mum.
It’s ok to leave your baby to cry. As hard as it is, believe me I know, but sometimes you need to do just that in order to get through the day.
Trying to leave the house would take hours, but getting out for some fresh air and a change of scenery can really help. Yes, the first outing alone is daunting, but once you get over that first hurdle, next time will be easier.
Making sure you have everything you need is essential to make your trip easier. Nappies, wipes, bottles, dummies, formula, toys, bibs, the list is endless!
Just when you thought you were safe to leave, one of your babies would do a massive poop and you’d have to take them out of the pram/car seat, undress them, change their nappy and then start all over again!
Hours I tell you, hours!!
It’s ok to break down and cry.
It’s ok to admit you need a break.
It’s ok to admit that you need help.
…and you will get through this!
I’m not sure what made me write this post. Perhaps it was inspired after witnessing a customer of mine battle with his young twins to get out of the house. He handled the situation so well. He didn’t shout, raise his voice or get agitated, yet I bet on the inside he was silently screaming!
It does get easier. Trust me. It may not feel like it right now, but it really will, and you’ll look back on the hard times with admiration that you got through them, and smile at how much easier it is now.