Invading your child's privacy

September 9, 2013
Me when I was younger
Nowadays more children than ever are using social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter. I remember the good old days of MSN and MySpace. Although these may not be as popular now as they were when I was growing up, it brings me to the all-important question of your child’s online safety and indeed how much privacy should you give your child. When I was a teenager I had a diary and I would write everything in it. From what I was watching on TV to who I fancied at school. One day my parents found and read my diary, much to my horror. From that point onward I found myself becoming more and more secretive in what I was doing. My parents had no qualms in confiscating my mobile phone from me or grounding me. Even stopping me from using the computer was a common occurrence.

As I knew my parents were prone to confiscating my phone I always made sure I deleted certain text messages almost immediately after reading and replying to them. I never wrote a diary again and my whereabouts were kept hidden when I went out with my mates, just in case mum and/or dad decided to turn up. Whilst all my friends were having sleep overs and going to parties, my sister and I were bound by strict curfews. This led me to be a bit rebellious in my teenage years and now as a mother myself I wonder how I will broach this subject with my own children.

I know under no uncertain circumstances that if my daughters decide to keep a diary, I will never ever touch it, let alone read the contents of it. To me a diary is a personal thing and something that parents should steer clear of. This also means never snooping on their phone or social networking profiles. I guess it all amounts to trust and I think it would be interesting to see if I still feel the same about this in 15 years’ time as I do now. 

Of course I will want to know where my children are, but that doesn’t mean I would stop them from doing things. Instead if one of my children wanted to go to a sleep over at a friend’s house, that would be fine with me just so long as I could phone their parents beforehand to confirm this and if one of my daughters was ever going to be late coming home, I would want them to send me a text or call me to let me know. 

Would you read your child’s diary? Would you snoop in their mobile phone, personal belongings even or social networking profiles? I would love to hear what you think!


  • Tas D

    September 9, 2013 at 7:20 am

    I think I would snoop. I know that's not the best thing to say but I want to be sure he doesn't get into danger/trouble when he's older. I do hope we have a good level of trust as he grows up but if I found his diary one day id definitely read it!

    1. Emily

      September 9, 2013 at 7:38 am

      It's so interesting hearing everyone's opinions in this! I can understand the temptation though, but I'd like to think I wouldn't! As you say, I hope we have a good trusting relationship xx

  • Kim Carberry

    September 9, 2013 at 12:36 pm

    If I had suspicions my girls were up to something they shouldn't be I would snoop just for their own safety!

    1. Emily

      September 9, 2013 at 12:42 pm

      I can see your point of view Kim! I don't know! The rate technology is improving we'll probably be able to watch their movements 24/7!

  • Barbie Bieber Beyond

    September 12, 2013 at 11:37 am

    I haven't snooped yet…but I haven't had any cause to either… is very important both ways and it's very important to emphasise that point over and over…..break that trust and it's open season!!!

    1. Emily

      September 12, 2013 at 11:38 am

      I agree. I think it's a door best left shut! x

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