I thought IVF was a rollercoaster of emotions, but it’s nothingcompared to being a parent!

IVF for my husband and I was emotional. As it is I imagine for most people going through it. The scans, injections, drugs and numerous appointments were all pretty emotional.
Each part of the whole process was emotional for a different reason. Take the injections for example – were we doing it right? Should we alternate sides? Do it higher up or lower down?
Egg collection was painful. I worried afterwards if my eggs would be good enough. What if they weren’t? What would we do then? What if they were all useless?
What if my husband’s sperm retrieval proved fruitless? What we do then?
With the last final injection I worried would we do it on time? If I was a bit late or a bit too early would that affect our chances?
It sounds silly, but when the time came to have our embryos transferred back I wondered to myself if lying down for the next two to three weeks would be best. I mean I didn’t want the embryos to fall out! Of course, I know that’s not possible, but it’s silly things like that which made me worry!
Thankfully, our IVF was successful first time round and we now have our beautiful twins who recently turned three years old.
Wow, three years old! Where has the time gone? 

Of course IVF is emotional, even more so if numerous rounds are needed, but nothing quite prepared me for just how emotional being a parent is.

One thing that always make me chuckle is when friends of mine, who have no children of their own, start to complain how they’re friends look after their own kids.
For starters unless you have children, you will never truly understand how to deal with a child. There are certain ways and techniques that can be used to instantly defuse a situation where a child is getting a bit wound up or upset.
Some children are very particular about things.
R, for example can be quite particular about things and if something isn’t done quite the way she wants it, it can upset her.
That’s not her being difficult, it’s just her way. Just the way she is. As a parent is doesn’t bother us because we know how to deal with those situations, but I guess to people looking they may see it as catering to her whims, but that’s simply not the case.
Being a parent is wonderful. The best thing I’ve ever done, but I’d be lying to you if I told you it was easy.
One thing that I don’t like is when people post statuses or tell stories of how perfect their children and family life is.
They’re lying!
It’s not perfect all the time! Don’t listen to them!
The majority of the time, R and M are little angels. They play well together, they listen to what we ask of them and to be 100% honest when I go out anywhere with them they’re always on their best behaviour.
Sometimes though we have those moments where I just can’t wait for them to go to bed so I can sit down and do nothing!
The days where it’s raining outside, there’s nothing to do and they’re bored.
The days where they have tantrums over everything and nothing!
One minute they’ll sit nicely at the table to eat their food and then notice that I left one bit of sweet corn on their plate – after spending five minutes trying to pick each individual piece out – and that’ll be it – they decide they don’t want pasta after all.
In all honesty though it’s the little things that make me emotional.
I remember I was at home on my own with the girls one day and I got a bit upset about something. I can’t remember what exactly, but I was sat on the floor and M just came over to me. She didn’t say anything, she just held me. She cuddled me and didn’t stop until I’d stopped crying.
Some people will say that I shouldn’t cry in front of my children. Why not? I’m human. They’re human and I want to bring them in the real world. Knowing about the good and bad things in the world.
The other day, just before the girls bedtime, they were running around with no clothes on. I decided to dress M in one of my really big woolly jumpers. R wanted to join in too, so I got her a jumper to wear as well. R was standing in the kitchen door way, when M ran up and gave her a massive cuddle.
It was so cute!
From their first steps to first words, first time they play together to the first time they fight with one another – it’s all emotional.
I dread the day they start nursery. I don’t what I’m going to do with myself when they’re at nursery. Probably just wait outside in my car for them to finish!
Some days I feel guilty that I don’t spend enough one on one time with them both. What I mean by this is that one day I might feel as though I’ve spent most of the day with M or vice versa.
Either way I love them both equally and always will.
Being a parent is tough, emotional and exhausting at times, but is it worth it? Oh yes!

15 thoughts on “I thought IVF was a rollercoaster of emotions, but it’s nothingcompared to being a parent!

  1. I'm so glad your IVF story was successful for you and your husband. Sadly one of my closest friends story isn't. She lives in the states and it's so expensive there to have IVF treatment. She and her husband has decided that perhaps, it isn't meant to be 🙁 #sharewithme.

  2. You are so lucky wo have two lovely little girls. I too am an angel 95% of the time but boy, when I have a tantrum – I HAVE a tantrum!! Usually if I'm over tired. As much as mummy loves the four of us, we all try her patience! Just wait till your girls are teens!! #sharewithme

  3. Totally agree what parenting is a crazy roller coaster!! And I cannot imagine having twins, Boo is a handful and I sometimes feel like I need 2 more pairs of hands to deal with her, so I would truly be at a loss with two Boos!!

  4. The Mothers say – Such a wonderfully honest post and we're so pleased that your story has such a lovely ending Your girls are beautiful but there are days when it just gets too much. We really enjoyed reading this 🙂 #sharewithme

  5. You are never prepared for the range of emotions that arrive when the kids do. Sometimes they're all-consuming but when they smile or hug you for no reasons than just because they want to, it's unbelievably worth it 🙂 #sharewithme

  6. Those people without children telling you how it should all go! Lol I give them a smile, because at some point I'm sure I thought the same way! Parenting is certainly a rollercoaster, I hadn't appreciated just go emotionally taxing it can be sometimes, but like everyone else I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm so glad your IVF worked for you first time! Thanks for sharing, I really like this post.

  7. So many quirkiness that our child learns and get along the way and that what makes them them. Unique and beautiful. Yes sometimes people would see this as whims. Being a parent is a roller coaster ride of emotions. Sometimes you feel so much in one moment. I love every minute of it. My life would be a bore eithout my child =)

    This is such a lovely read. #binkylinky

  8. It's lovely to see snippets of your family life. It is those little moments that we remember and cherish!
    Don't be too hard on yourself. You will never get everything just right. And the best thing is your daughters probably won't even be aware of those things you thought you done wrong.

  9. Ahh parenting is tough and rewarding all the same isn't it? You will find that you may wait a few times at nursery doors missing them. As I do when I drop my two off but then you will find they learn so much and enjoy it and it's worth the little break for you and your sanity as well. lol Lovely and honest post. Thank you ever so much for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

  10. I've always said in my 14 years of being a mum that it's 90% guilt! I think most of us are so fixated on gettingt right that we beat ourselves upriver the little things we get wrong. One thing ive learnt though over the years is that we need to aim for just right parenting and not perfect parenting. No one does perfect! #binkylinky

  11. Aw, this is a lovely balanced post. Your girls sound lovely – my son is rarely on best behaviour when he goes out! I know what you mean though about how people think you're catering to their whims when you're just making theirs – and everyone else's lives much easier by calming them down the best way you know how!

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