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This week our brilliant mum feature is Alice who blogs at Living with a Jude.
Alice is 37 years old, and lives in Hertfordshire with her husband and three children, Jude, 12, Elsa, 9, and Emmeline, 3. Alice works as a writer for a magazine plus she blogs about our family life, veganism and general special needs subjects. Alice says she doesn’t have a lot of spare time, but when she does find a vacant hour (or she’s just given up work for a bit), she loves to head down to her allotment. Alice regularly photographs her allotment for Instagram and says it’s most definitely her happy place, and it’s the best form of therapy she can think of.
Thanks for taking part Alice!
Have you always wanted to be a mum?
Yes, very much so. Growing up I always wanted 5 children (mad I know) but then when Jude was born, everything went up in the air a bit. He has severe learning disabilities and autism so adding siblings into the mix wasn’t as straight forward a decision as many people make. It’s that old thing where you look at someone else’s life and never think it will happen to you. Jude is obviously wonderful and I wouldn’t change him for the world but having a child with special needs certainly changes your perspective on things.
How did you feel when your children were born?
To be honest, I don’t know what I felt! A bit dazed, relieved, shocked. All in equal measures. Jude’s birth was long so afterwards I just felt tired! Long is pretty much the only way to describe it. He was back to back and not really moving anywhere fast so after 2 days they induced me, threatened me with a c-section but then thankfully he was born naturally a few hours later.
He weighed 8lbs 110z. My daughter Elsa’s birth was a stark contrast to Jude’s! No time for pain relief or even to think a great deal. Once in active labour she was in a rush to come out. And at 9lbs 6oz, it wasn’t entirely graceful! I was actually quite phobic of birth throughout my pregnancy with Emmeline because of the experience I had with Elsa! But being a bit older and wiser, I was able to create the birth I actually wanted.
I knew she would be my last so I wanted to feel in control and enjoy the experience. My waters went before anything else happened, 2 weeks early so that was a bit of a shock. However, once I was induced a couple of days later, it went pretty smoothly. She was diddy in comparison at just 7lbs 4oz.
What have been your most rewarding experiences so far as a mum?
Fighting Jude’s corner and winning a 2 year battle to get him in the best school for him. He’s now so happy, I’m so pleased we went through the hell we did as his smiley face is completely worth it.
What are some of your funniest moments to have happened to you as a mum?
So so many with Jude. Watching people’s reaction when he walks up and starts talking to them about random things is always amusing.
Have there been any situations with your children that you have found difficult to cope with?
This is the basis of my blog! Again, Jude fills this category. Reactions to him in public, reactions to me as a mum with Jude, people making comments about him or pointing when we’re at the park, the council and their inefficiencies. I could write for days about situations that has been difficult to cope with. It’s sad that we still face issues but I’ve developed an incredibly thick skin and a defensive wall that flies up in the face of attack. I will stand up for him now if someone says something but in the past this sort of social problem really upset me.
What are your dreams and hopes for your children?
I want them to always be good people, do the right thing and just be content in their own lives.
You can find Alice online here…
@livingwithajude – Twitter, Insta and Facebook
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