Hello and welcome to the Brilliant Mum Feature. Once a week I will be featuring one mum in a bid to find out more about them and their lives.
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This week our brilliant mum feature is Jess who blogs at Tantrums to Smiles.
“Im Jess a 28 year old mum to Evelyn aged 4 and James aged 9. We live just outside of Bristol and I am currently a stay at home mum and blogger. I have been married for almost 6 years to my husband Frank who is 29. In the very little spare time I get I love blurting out all my thoughts onto my blog, taking photos and exploring new places.”
Thanks for taking part Jess!
Have you always wanted to be a mum?
Its not something I ever really remember thinking about. Im sure I used to love dolls etc when I was little but being a mum for real isn’t something that had crossed my mind until I unexpectedly found out I was pregnant aged 18!
How did you feel when your children were born?
My first child was definitely unplanned and I was just 19 when I gave birth. Despite having almost 9 months to prepare I felt so unprepared when he finally came. I definitely felt a lot more prepared when I gave birth the second time. I also felt my confident to tell people what I wanted and able to make more decisions around the birth etc the second time around.
My birth with James was long (almost 24 hours) as he was back to back. I had just gas and air and was so tired when he finally came I didn’t even have the strength to hold him until a few hours later. I lost quite a lot of blood during the birth and ended up having to stay in overnight, this was actually a blessing in disguise as it gave me lots of time to adapt and ask a million questions with the midwives always around to help.
My birth with Evelyn was much shorter. I got my first mild contractions around 7am but continued to do some shopping, put the washing out, do some crafts with James until around 11.30am when my husband came home from work and we made out way to hospital. Evelyn came just before 2pm and again I just had gas and air. We left hospital around 11pm on the same day.
What have been your most rewarding experiences so far as a mum?
Oh there are so many, I think being a parent in general is so rewarding even with the tantrums and meltdowns! It might just have to be seeing them grow up though. Just knowing that I had a part in raising that tiny baby into this child gives me chills. Especially when I hear them do simple things like saying please and thank you or playing kindly with each other or other kids makes my heart want to burst with pride.
What are some of your funniest moments to have happened to you as a mum?
When my little girl was born my son was like her little body guard. He would stand right next to her car seat or pram and whenever anyone would come over he would spring into action. Proudly standing in front of her declaring to the world that was his sister and nobody could look, touch or talk to her lol! It was definitely a little awkward but absolutely hilarious (and a little bit proud!) seeing this little 4 year old protecting his baby sister to the world.
Have there been any situations with your children that you have found difficult to cope with?
I found going from one child to two quite difficult if im being honest. Evelyn spent a lot of time feeding and so the mum guilt would creep in about leaving James out etc. I felt like I was always trying to juggle so much to make sure I spent equal time with them both and at the end of each day I was exhausted.
I really felt for James who had us all to himself for 4+ years and then suddenly he had to share us and he found that tricky too. It was definitely a learning curve for us all but it does get easier. Four years down the line its much easier to split my time between them both and make sure they both get time by themselves with us but still managing to find time for myself too.
It was definitely a big learning curve for us all though and one I found very tricky to get over the mum guilt from.
What are your dreams and hopes for your children?
My biggest hope for my children is that they are happy. If that means they have a important job and lots of money or travel the world living from a camper van I will be proud regardless because I want them to be able to live their own dreams and be happy whatever that may mean to them.
I also hope that they know that no matter how old they get or where in the world they are that they know they always have someone to talk to and a friend in me.
I hope that when times get tough they know they always have me. I hope that my children always know love, always know happiness and always follow their hearts.
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