The fading of time. A poignant post about losing mum to cancer and reflecting on memories that are fading all too fast…

May of this year marks 12 years since mums passing. She had ovarian cancer and died when she was just 50 years old. My sister and I were 18. It’s hard to think about what life would be like now if mum was still around. Actually, it’s pretty unbearable to think about. However I do often find myself thinking up things that I think we might have done together. We’d go shopping and try on ridiculous outfits then laugh at one another. We’d enjoy a spot of lunch and have a chat about our lives. I might even ask her… [Read More]

The mum we all want to be

Children walking by road

We all know her. We all have someone like her in our lives, and quite often we all wonder how she does it. How does she manage to turn up on time at the school gates looking perfectly pristine, not a hair out of place, not even a speck of food on her clothes. How does she do it? I bet her kids hair has been brushed, their faces wiped, teeth cleaned and they’ve had a healthy breakfast. Most mornings I rush to shovel something, anything, down my kids throats before dressing them in such a hurry I don’t notice… [Read More]

A mum is a precious thing

What a statement.  Yes, indeed she is, but she’s also strong, intelligent and fearless. She’s brave, independent and almost like a warrior when it comes to protecting her children. A mum is also a worrier and can be dependent on others, as well as experience feelings of loneliness. Mums come in various shapes with different personalities, traits, beliefs and morals.  What works for one, will not necessarily work for another.  One friend of mine believes in letting their children ‘cry it out’, whereas another friend of mine panders to her child’s every need. Which one is right? Well, they both… [Read More]

There's nothing wrong with a paranoid mum!

Why is being thought of as a paranoid mum a bad thing? I’m not always paranoid, but ever since M was in hospital with a severe infection I’ve been more aware and more on the ball when it comes to our girls being ill. I guess it’s only natural for me to feel like this. M was so very poorly and it was very scary. I kept telling myself that if only I’d gone to the doctors sooner or gone to the hospital sooner, M would never have gone downhill as quickly as she had. I feel as though I… [Read More]

The strength of a parent

The original title of this post, was going to be the strength of a mother. Mainly because I’m a mum and I wanted to get my view, as a mum across. However, it dawned on me that both mums and dads have to have an amazing amount of strength during the toughest times of parenthood. It’s not something you really think about when planning for a baby, or during pregnancy and the early days I guess, but when the unexpected happens, mums and dads somehow manage to dig deep and muster up all of this strength that they probably didn’t… [Read More]

Missing Mum

Today my mum would have turned 61 years old. Sadly she’s not here and hasn’t been for almost 11 years now. I wonder what I would have bought you if you were still here and I wonder what we would have done to celebrate your birthday. I wonder what kind of grandparent you would have been to our twins and I wonder what you would be doing with your life right now. This isn’t going to be a long post. I just needed to write something down to mark the day. To remember. It goes without saying that I miss… [Read More]

The glue that holds a family together

A mum is a person to be looked up to. A role model for her children to aspire to and also the glue that holds a family together.  A dad of course is also the glue that holds a family together, but when I lost my mum things changed in a big way and I didn’t like it. I still don’t like. We all seem to have drifted apart and are so busy with our own lives that we almost forget each other’s existence.  We lost mum over ten years ago now, so you’d think I’d be used to it… [Read More]

Obsessions I’ve developed since becoming a mum

Quite often I hear people saying that it’s funny how things change when you become a parent. Pre-children I spent my Sundays lazing on the sofa, cuddling up to my husband and watching TV in between naps.  Nowadays Sundays are usually spent painting, crafting, playing in the park, running around at a soft play centre or pretty much anything else come to think of it that means I’m on my feet pretty much all day! Not that I’m complaining. I wouldn’t change it for the world.  One thing I have noticed though since becoming a mum is that I’ve developed… [Read More]

Interview with a Pro-Blogger

Today’s post is an interview with professional blogger, Vicki who blogs at Honest Mum and Mummys Got Style. 1. Tell me a bit about yourself I’m married to Peter and am a mum of two boys, Oliver 5 and Alexander who is 2 and a half.  We live in Yorkshire, but I usually spend one day a week in London for client meetings, press shows and to plan shoots. I’m a full time, professional blogger and prior to that I was an award winning TV and film director making short films that screened on TV all over the world as well… [Read More]

Is social media making you a grumpy mum?

Pictures of perfectly clean houses with everything in its place. Happy children playing and sharing toys together nicely. Not a single food stain on their clothes to be seen. The seemingly perfect life of others. It’s funny how we view other people’s pictures on social media and compare them to our lives. A picture of a family sitting down to eat together. A picture of a children sitting on a beach or playing in a garden. A video of someone’s two year old writing their own name or counting to twenty. Am I bad mum because my three year old… [Read More]