Rules. Do they restrict us or keep us safe?
Do they limit what we can do or do they give us reasonable boundaries in which to live our lives by?
I guess it depends on your outlook?
I like rules in some situations.
For example when driving my car, I know that when approaching a zebra crossing I should stop to let pedestrians cross the road.
When ordering a drink at a bar I know that I should let the people who were there before me be served first.
Rules can be good, but they can also restrict us which can limit our enjoyment of life sometimes.
Now thinking about our children, do you think they need rules?
A few weeks ago I saw a video online of a mum raising her children without rules and without school. I think it was a clip from a TV show, but I can’t be sure.
Two of her children decided that they wanted to go to school. Her son said something along the lines of wanting or needing rules and structure.
After a trial in a local school, both children decided school wasn’t for them.
I’m for all letting children make their own decisions, but when it comes to education I think parents need to step in.
If you’re not going to send your child to school, then you have a responsibility to make sure they get a good education at home which is 100% possible.
Sadly, one of this lady’s sons couldn’t read or write, despite being at an age where he should be able to do so.
Aside from school, I do think children need rules and boundaries.
For example, we set rules about what time our children to go to bed, where they go and to some extent who they socialise with outside of school.
However, there’s a fine line between rules and controlling our children.
For example, I don’t put a plate of food in front of my children and tell them to eat it without first asking them what it is they’d like to eat.
Allowing children to take control and make decisions about what they want for dinner, what they want to play or read, or what they want to do on the weekend is important.
Making decisions is an important life skill. Not only does it teach children to be decisive, it’s also teaching them how to be independent, which will in turn help them decide what path to take in life.
Rules such as wearing a school uniform and what time to be at school etc are important, as it’s preparing them for their future such as when they go to work. They’ll have reasonable expectations of what to expect and what will be expected of them.
So in conclusion, yes, I do think children need rules. What do you think?