Be careful what you wish for

Wow, the title of this blog post sounds kind of sinister, but I want to reassure you that it’s not intended to come across that way!

I’m one of those people in life that’s quite thoughtful, a bit of a daydreamer, but I’m also a worrier. Sure, I’m pretty laid back when it comes to a lot of things, but my future, and the future of my children is something that worry about a lot.

In my job I work with a lot of different people. From lawyers and doctors, to teachers, officer workers and the elderly.

The thing that gets me most is the stark contrast between these people’s lives. Although they’ve never met one another, not that I’m aware of anyway, there’s always something that makes me stop and think.

Yes, I like to know about people, their families, jobs etc, but outside of that, what really goes on? I only spend two hours at most in these peoples homes. Quite often they’re not there, but the elderly are always there.

The younger generation talk about how they dislike getting up early for work in the morning, how they wish they could stay in bed all day and spend the majority of their time at home, whereas the elderly crave the exact opposite of this.

While the younger generation have their phones going off every minute with phone calls and texts from friends, the silence in an elderly person’s home feels very lonely.

They long to go outdoors, to see people, to just walk down the road, but they can’t.

Sometimes I’m the only person they’ve seen all week and instead of doing my job and cleaning, they just want to talk. They want some company.

I can’t help, but feel how wrong this is.

It seems that we all strive to earn money, so that we can afford a nice home, a nice retirement, and be able to live our last remaining days in comfort, but what good is that when you end up sitting in a silent house, in the same chair you’ve sat in everyday for the past year, watching the same TV programmes?

Only ever getting up to eat, sleep and go to the toilet. What kind of existence is that?

As such, I’ve learnt to be careful about what I wish for.

Wishing that I could just stay at home all day and watch TV. Why am I wishing for this? Soon enough that day will come and I’ll regret it. I’ll want to be able to go out, to explore new places, meet new people, but it’ll be too late.

A few weeks ago I went for a run. This particular route took me through a park with a large playing field. It was a cold day, but it wasn’t raining. The sun was shining and the ground was covered in orange and red leaves. As I approached the top end of the playing field, something caught my eye.

A man sat in a wheelchair, alone. He’d wheeled himself onto the grass and positioned himself between two trees. As I ran past I wondered to myself how long had he been sat there alone just watching the world go by.

I mean I was pleased to see him outdoors, it’s better than being cooped up in a room all day, but something about his lonely image in the park, made me feel somewhat sad.

Life is short.

I know that all too well, after loosing my mum when she was just 50 years old.

I’m not really sure of the point of this post to be honest. I just felt like I had to write about it.

What do you think?

17 thoughts on “Be careful what you wish for

  1. I feel like this time of year always makes me become reflective on life, especially when another year is just about to pass and I am missing loved ones, so I can complete relate to this post.
    Ironically for me right now I am wishing I could sit in front of the telly (LOL) but that’s because I am having a rough pregnancy at the moment and in a lot of pain. I guess it’s all about balance and making the most of the moments when you can. #ThaFridayLinky

  2. Oh I get this. I’ve witnessed one or two older relatives live the kind of life in their twilight years I wouldn’t want. I’d also be the first to admit I can get well and truly stuck down the rabbit hole where nothing matters to me but the job I am focused on: be it cleaning the house for a family that will hardly notice, earning money on the blog or whatever. I need to take more time out for myself. I should also think about the future because I’m not getting any younger!

  3. This is such a thought provoking post. My nan is in a care home for alzheimer’s and on each visit my heart shreds with love, protectiveness and fear. Apart from fairly short moments her life is about existing. I’m crying writing this comment because it breaks my heart. It’s not that she’s treated badly – but that for vast times of the day she just sits. She forgets she has a tv – that she could go to the communal lounge. I’m afraid that she feels humiliated or feels frightened. I am fearful for myself too at that age. It makes you want to make the most of being able and independent for sure. x #ThatFridayFeeling

  4. It feels like you are questioning many things and I am the same right now because I am grieving for my brother and also really worrying about my children’s future too. So I empathise on that score. As for the plight of the elderly I think the UK is so neglectful of our older people – it seems to me someone needs to link up lonely stay at home mums with the elderly in some big national scheme – both sides could benefit from this so much. A post that made me think which is always a very good thing

  5. We are all so busy it can be easy to forget to stop and think about things like this. You’ve definitely made me want to volunteer for charity to help others with this post! #thatfridaylinky

  6. This is so sad but so true. They had a Santa for Seniors program a few years back here and the presents they asked for broke your heart. Things like soap, shampoo, scarves, mittens and just basic things. They just wanted someone to know they cared. I slipped in some Christmas cards with them to display so they could remember someone thought of them even if they didn’t know their name. I work from home and tend to have that existence all week and I can tell you, it’s no fun no matter how much office workers wish they could switch places. I tell them the same thing…be careful what you wish for!
    #thatfridaylinky

  7. I do agree and I love that you’ve thought about it! Working all the time can’t be good for anyone. I know that there are so many lonely people out there who just want someone to talk to. How awefully sad that we live in this type of world. It’s difficult to know what to do tbh. Talk to our neighbours is a good start. #thatfridaylinky

  8. I agree with this post completely. I’m not sure I like the thought of a lonely existence in my twilight years so I try and remember to phone my relatives and chat to my elderly neighbours regularly. Sometimes life gets in the way though and I don’t do as much as I should. #ThatFridayLinky

  9. I try to make sure that I live every day to the fullest and enjoy what I have, my two beautiful girls and wonderful husband. Too often we speed through life wishing for things rather than appreciating what we have! #ThatFridayLinky

  10. The older I get, the more I think this way. You are spot on – every day is precious and we are often times not very grateful. Fresh air, walking, running, laughing – all good things. Great post! Happy holidays! xxo #ThatFridayLinky xoxo

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