Friday, 22 May 2015

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10 Year Anniversary of Mums Death

Today marks the 10 year anniversary of my mums death.

I was 18 years old when she passed away from ovarian cancer.

She’d been battling cancer for a number of years. I can’t remember exactly how old I was when my parents sat me down to tell my sister and I. I can’t remember how I reacted either.

What I can remember is this.

The first few years weren't too bad. Well,  weren't too bad in terms of having cancer, which as you can imagine is pretty bad.

My parents obviously shielded my sister and I from most of the details, but I do remember my mum having chemotherapy, wearing cold caps to try to save her hair and even more visible, I remember her dramatic weight loss.

I also remember being so selfish. Given the choice of going out with my friends one night or staying at home with my mum, I chose to go out. I could see from mums face that she wanted me to stay home, but I went anyway.

A decision I always regret. I know mum won’t hold it against me, but it doesn’t make me feel any better. I’ll always regret that decision.

I remember arriving home one day to see the doctors car parked outside. I knew it wasn't good news.

I went in and found mum in bed with dad sat next to her. The doctor was sat on the other side of the bed. Nothing needed to be said. I knew from the looks on their faces that nothing more could be done and now all there was left to do was to make mum as comfortable as possible.

Thursday, 21 May 2015

5 Things you can discard when downsizing

If you are downsizing to a smaller home or you just want to lead a simpler life then the first step is to get rid of some of your things that take up too much space. Downsizing is a great way to minimize stress. According to, home owners who have chosen to downsize often “appear happier when they're no longer overwhelmed by the demands of a larger home”. The main attractions and benefits of downsizing to a smaller home is the smaller workload and increased cash intake as smaller homes do not use as much electricity and heating as a larger house. 

1. Clothes

Clothes take up a lot of space and not just in the wardrobe. If you haven’t worn a piece of clothing in over a year then throw it out. If it remains in good condition and you think that someone else may get more use out of it, donate it to charity. Only keep the clothes that you know you will wear. When it comes to downsizing, it is a good idea to store out-of-season clothes elsewhere to free up some bedroom space.

2. Kitchen Appliances

If you are moving into a smaller home, chances are you will have a smaller kitchen to match. If you have a lot of kitchen appliances that you rarely use but aren’t quite ready to part with them altogether, keep them safe until you need them again. This not only goes for kitchen appliances but all items, even pieces of furniture that are perhaps too large to bring with you to your new home. Think about putting these into storage, such as here.

I'm going to BritMums Live!

Name: Emily
Twitter ID: @Twinmumanddad
Height: 5”5
Hair: Long and brown
Eyes: Brown

Is this your first blogging conference?

This will be my second. My first was BritMums last year.

Are you attending both days?

Yes and I can’t wait! Last year was amazing!

What are you most looking forward to at BritMums Live 2015?

Learning lots of new things and meeting lots more bloggers than I did last year and learning lots of new things. Last year I went to as many sessions and talks as I could and will be doing pretty much the same thing again this year! I intend to make the most of my time there!

Wednesday, 20 May 2015

Luck, chance or fortune?

I'm the sort of person that believes everything happens for a reason. I think certain elements and experiences from our past happen for a reason and although at the time we may not realise it, it's not until the future that we realise why something from the past occurred.

Do you believe in luck?

I do and I have been fortunate in life in many ways, but then again I've also had my lot of back luck. Thankfully the good luck has been more than the bad!

The infographic below has been provided by Paddy Power Bingo and offer some tips to sharpen your edge and then try your luck!

I didn't give birth! I had a caesarean!

I read a story a little while ago about a Facebook group that was set up targeting women who had had caesareans. I can’t remember the name of the group, but basically the aim of the group appears to be to make women who had caesareans feel bad that they didn’t go through labour because according to them a caesarean is not giving birth.

What a load of rubbish!

According to Merriam-Webster the definition of giving birth is:

1:  the act of giving birth :  the expulsion or extraction of a fetus and its membranes :  parturition
2:  the procedure of assisting birth of the fetus and expulsion of the placenta by manual, instrumental, or surgical means

Some women don’t actually have a choice when it comes to the delivery method of their children. I for one didn’t have a choice.

Tuesday, 19 May 2015

Stranger Danger

Have you taught your children about the dangers of talking to strangers yet?

I haven’t.

Not because I’m an irresponsible parent – although I guess some people may view it that way – but because it simply didn’t cross my mind.

My children are three years old and they’re always with me.

They never run away from me. They’re always at my side.

You may think I’m joking, but I’m not!

When I take them to the park or play groups they won’t go anywhere without me. They’ll ask to go on the slide or to go and play with a toy. I’ll say yes and then they’ll want me to go with them.

I like them. I think it’s a good thing, although at times I kind of wished they were a bit more independent at play group and wandered off to play with something without me right behind them.

I often see the panicked looks on other mums faces when they’re child has run off and they’re nowhere to be seen. I’ve never had that problem because as I say, my girls are always by my side.

Does all of this mean that I shouldn’t talk to them about ‘stranger danger’ yet?

Monday, 18 May 2015

5 tips on returning to work with a newborn

There’s no doubt about it, returning to work with a newborn can be hard, but if your maternity leave is coming to an end or you’ve been head-hunted by job agencies like CCJM and have decided to restart your career early. Here are five ways to make the transition easier:

1. Make childcare arrangements you’re happy with

First and perhaps foremost, it’s essential to make childcare arrangements you feel comfortable and happy with. If you know your little one is being well cared for during the day it will make going back to work far less daunting. There are many great nurseries out there, which take babies from a very young age or you could find a registered childminder instead

2. Make use of your KIT days

If you’ve been on maternity leave for a while it can be easy to feel out of the loop when you go back to work. One way to avoid this is to make use of the ten ‘Keeping in Touch (KIT)’ days available to employees. These will allow you to make extra money without affecting your Statuary Pay and ease your eventual return to work after a period away.

3. Ask for a flexible working pattern

Don’t want to go back to work full-time? Then you might want to consider a part-time position or job share to allow for a more flexible working pattern. If you’ve worked for your employer for 26 weeks (including maternity leave) you have the right to request this and while your employer doesn’t have to grant your wishes it’s certainly worth asking if you’re worried about leaving your baby for long periods of time.

Improving a toddlers balance

I have three year old twins and they have had all manner of bikes. From balance bikes, three wheeled ones, wooden ones and ride on ones. They now have two. A small plastic one that’s only suitable for indoor use and a proper 12” girls bike with stabilisers.

They also have a scooter each. Of course we’ve bought them the appropriate safety gear such as helmets, knee and elbow pads.

It’s funny how different the girls are on their scooters and bikes. M is pretty confident. She’s a bit of a daredevil. She likes to go fast and if she falls off it doesn’t faze her at all. R, on the other hand is a bit more cautious. She’ll go a bit slower than M, but if she falls off she won’t want to go back on. 

M is quite co-ordinated. R isn’t as co-ordinated as M. I think we need to find a way to improve her balance. I have one of those big work out balls and on occasion R has stood on top of it whilst holding my hands, but I’m not sure how effective this is in helping. 

I’ve been thinking about getting her a skateboard. I think it would help with her balance and to be honest I’m quite tempted to get myself one too! I’ve seen some lovely skateboarding trainers that would look great whilst skateboarding!

R has always been a bit of a tomboy so I think she’d like a skateboard, although I imagine it would take a lot of practise for her to get used to it, but we have a lovely back garden and some space indoors that we could use to help her practise. 

I think in the long run it’d help her to improve her balance and in turn be a bit more confident riding her scooter and bike.

What do you think?

Our first barbecue in our new home

At the end of April we had our first barbecue of the year.

I love barbecue food. The taste, the smell, the eating outdoors – the whole combination I love!

We had a barbecue last year in our old house, but our twins, R and M, didn’t eat any of the food cooked on the barbecue.

This year though was different.

We’re in a new house with our very own secluded garden and R and M are now three years old which means they eat pretty much anything you put in front of them!

My husband went out and bought the barbecue along with some masculine barbecue tools!

He was in charge of the cooking so whilst I left him to it I made a salad and boiled some corn on the cob!

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